You are right to put yourself first

There is a general notion in the social world that you need to put the needs of others ahead of your own in order to go above and beyond. While there is some sense of nobility in this statement, it is shallow on a broader scale.

We, as human beings, are by and large trained to work in teams. Whether it involves running a household, raising a family, running a company, or living a happy life. We are social beings and the urge to be recognized for our contributions and sacrifices motivates us to be good partners in this social world. In the grand scheme of things, being helpful and respectful is not only admirable but necessary yet there is an evil hiding in the face of humility when our actions are motivated by those who aim to control the social narrative.

I have always been a believer in putting individual responsibility ahead of the group and there are reasons for that.

One, the degree of a person’s contribution to society can only be measured by what they bring to the table. If you are not responsible for yourself, your surroundings, your health, and your safety, you can’t possibly believe you can provide for others in a productive manner.

Second, the act of selflessness is an almost impossible one to carry on for long periods of time as resentment and envy set at the moment we compare ourselves with others and the way our social world is designed, the poison of envy, jealousy, resentment, and hate to catch up to the best of us.

And third, there are no rules to what one can do to be considered valuable by all in this world. You may have added a ton of value to a large group of people but because of the political divide that so obviously exists, there will be those who would consider the miracles you perform nothing but an effort to put others down. You can’t make everyone happy.

Yet, there is no reason to be skeptical of our world. There are many that believe in things you believe in. Some adore your existence, but you must find the people who believe in you. The primary aim of putting oneself first is to make sure we provide the best of ourselves to this beautiful world.

Yes, some people want to divide us but more of us want to unite us. Bask in the glory of your powers and learn to adapt the greatest powers of them all; adaptability, forgiveness, acceptance, and optimism.