I write today on probably the most commonly yet most loosely used word in almost any language in the world; love. It concerns me how we try to rationalise something we feel that isn’t supposed to be defined but only felt. We live in a world where we talk most about the one thing that we can’t truly accept. If I do have to define love, I would say love is everything we are made from and the lack of which kills us while we are still breathing.

Now, I do understand what people would say – love is a sacrifice or requires a bunch of sacrifices in order to be shown. Some would also argue that love is about getting all the attention you want from their parents, partners, friends and others because of expectations. While I do not want to limit anyones opinion of what love is, I can’t seem to agree on any of the definitions written prior to this sentence.

Love doesn’t require sacrifice, you give your everything to make sure that someone you love is happy. Sacrifice would mean you give up someone you love for something/someone you don’t. Don’t use the sacrifice you made as a reason or an excuse to say you love someone or to leave them. Be honest with yourself.

On the other hand, a relationship is different. A relationship can have expectations as its a written or verbal contract between humans. Sometimes there are terms in that contract that make us sacrifice some of the things we like and treasure but it’s our decision to sign the contract or not. A relationship is not love, those two have nothing to do with each other. You can love someone you are not in a relationship with and not love someone you are in a relationship with. Relationship has rules and love follows none.

These might just be my thoughts and my understanding of love but because the majority of humans decide to generalise love, I have tried doing that too but in a manner that doesn’t hold love responsible for our pain. 

So where does this love start from? Is it something we get after a certain age? Is it something we can lose? Is love the answer to all our problems or the cause of our pain?

Quiet honestly, love isn’t the problem. While we are growing up, we learn how to define love from people; parents, relatives, siblings and more. Today, even stories, books, movies and other forms of expression try to showcase how love should be. Most often or not, the problem is their understanding of love.

Love starts with you. You are already it thus you can provide it. Our love is the strongest we can feel. Love can’t be destroyed nor created but relationships can be destroyed and created. When someone leaves, you are not losing love, you are in possession of it at all times. You just decide to not show it to yourself thus there is a feeling of lack of love. We grieve over losing what can’t be lost. 

Work on this, let yourself feel your power. When you read someone write “be in your power”, remember that they are trying to make you meet the love you possess within. We are all good when we talk about your soul. No one resents or despises anyone when they act from their soul. Yes, there is evil and there is good within all of us but when we decide not to work on ourselves and take the easier route by befriending the evil, we forget that we have a soul within ourselves.

Love is for all, love is all.

What are you thoughts on my definition of love? What is your definition of love?